So, as another season of my life comes to a close and the sadness and
grief of those lost dreams and hopes seem to ease I realize... AWWWW
HELL! LIFE IS STILL GOOD!
I know you thought this was going to be another one of those, whoa is me, my husband left, I have no children, and I'm over 50, sad stories. But it's not! Yes, I was devastated when my husband told me he wanted a divorce. Yes, I thought I would never get through the sad, nauseous feeling of what do I do now that I'm not going to have that "Happily ever after" marriage every young girl dreams of. And yes, I'm tired of seeing that sad look on people's face when you tell them "Well I'm going through my second divorce and no I don't have any children". But the cloud is lifting and the nausea is going away and I'm in a new season. You see I belong to a secret society of women. We are the over 50, No husband, no children, I have my own money, home, business and I'm happy and I still look damn good, SOCIETY! There's not many of us out there and it's not easy to get in (in fact it's harder than pledging a sorority! ) But we do exist and every few years a new member steps up and speaks out to let other women know about the benefits of being one of "US". So I have slipped on my Manolo's, had a mani/pedi and dubbed myself this year's voice for the "SOCIETY."
OK. Jokes aside. This has not been a good few years for me. But in all the turmoil and many losses (which I won't mention because this is a feel good piece) I have come out on the other side stronger, better and more focused than ever. I have discovered the importance of God, the universe, friends, family and pets. Now please don't get me wrong. My recent break up and divorce has not made me bitter. I still LOOOOVVVE MEN! There's nothing sexier than a confident, smell good gentleman who's not looking for a mother figure or a 20 year old hottie. And thus... the reason for this piece.
We often get caught up in the negative aspects of a break up. We feel the very real pain of losing someone we love and thought we were going to spend the rest of our lives with. Taking care of them and being taken care of. The "It's you and me against the World" feeling. When a break up or changing of the season comes (and you're not the one wanting to leave) it can actually feel like a death. We only see what we have lost. But now that most of my grief has subsided, and being the true romantic that I am, I realize there's a chance to experience a whole new world of "FIRSTS"! A first glance. A first date. A first kiss. A first... need I say more?
Now, Yes, I read Mr. Harvey's wonderful book "Act like a Lady, Think like a Man" and while I learned a few good tips of how men think there was still some missing thoughts for me as a newly single, grown woman over 50! I'm not looking for a father for my kids, I don't have baby daddy drama and I know that if I decide I'm going to share "the Cookie" the world won't stop spinning if you don't call me the next day. Hell, I MIGHT NOT CALL YOU! If you are a father I know your children come first and if you have baby mama drama... that's between the two of you. I do thank Mr. Harvey for reminding me that I don't have to be in control all the time and I do want to be treated like a Lady (that's how I was raised). But as a spokesperson for the "SOCIETY" I wanted to let all the ladies over 50, got my own money, house, business, no husband or kids, know that... It's OK.
Not many people, men and/or women over 50 (almost 60) get a chance to experience the thrill of the "Firsts" again. I'm talking about the real "Firsts" not just the "for tonight" firsts. I'm talking about the stomach flutter, heart pounding, when will I see you again, ooooo girl there he is... FIRST! The, I can still smell his cologne, is he looking at me, I can't even look at him no more, FIRST! The wow I didn't know that was still in working order, FIRST! THE I CAN'T BELIEVE I REMEMBERED HOW TO DO THAT, FIRST! (sorry I got carried away)
Anyhoo, I'm here as a reminder that there's a light on the other side. If nothing else, the thought of feeling that sensation again should help to get you to the other side. We in the "SOCIETY" are proud and strong and ready for the FIRSTS!... AGAIN!
I know you thought this was going to be another one of those, whoa is me, my husband left, I have no children, and I'm over 50, sad stories. But it's not! Yes, I was devastated when my husband told me he wanted a divorce. Yes, I thought I would never get through the sad, nauseous feeling of what do I do now that I'm not going to have that "Happily ever after" marriage every young girl dreams of. And yes, I'm tired of seeing that sad look on people's face when you tell them "Well I'm going through my second divorce and no I don't have any children". But the cloud is lifting and the nausea is going away and I'm in a new season. You see I belong to a secret society of women. We are the over 50, No husband, no children, I have my own money, home, business and I'm happy and I still look damn good, SOCIETY! There's not many of us out there and it's not easy to get in (in fact it's harder than pledging a sorority! ) But we do exist and every few years a new member steps up and speaks out to let other women know about the benefits of being one of "US". So I have slipped on my Manolo's, had a mani/pedi and dubbed myself this year's voice for the "SOCIETY."
OK. Jokes aside. This has not been a good few years for me. But in all the turmoil and many losses (which I won't mention because this is a feel good piece) I have come out on the other side stronger, better and more focused than ever. I have discovered the importance of God, the universe, friends, family and pets. Now please don't get me wrong. My recent break up and divorce has not made me bitter. I still LOOOOVVVE MEN! There's nothing sexier than a confident, smell good gentleman who's not looking for a mother figure or a 20 year old hottie. And thus... the reason for this piece.
We often get caught up in the negative aspects of a break up. We feel the very real pain of losing someone we love and thought we were going to spend the rest of our lives with. Taking care of them and being taken care of. The "It's you and me against the World" feeling. When a break up or changing of the season comes (and you're not the one wanting to leave) it can actually feel like a death. We only see what we have lost. But now that most of my grief has subsided, and being the true romantic that I am, I realize there's a chance to experience a whole new world of "FIRSTS"! A first glance. A first date. A first kiss. A first... need I say more?
Now, Yes, I read Mr. Harvey's wonderful book "Act like a Lady, Think like a Man" and while I learned a few good tips of how men think there was still some missing thoughts for me as a newly single, grown woman over 50! I'm not looking for a father for my kids, I don't have baby daddy drama and I know that if I decide I'm going to share "the Cookie" the world won't stop spinning if you don't call me the next day. Hell, I MIGHT NOT CALL YOU! If you are a father I know your children come first and if you have baby mama drama... that's between the two of you. I do thank Mr. Harvey for reminding me that I don't have to be in control all the time and I do want to be treated like a Lady (that's how I was raised). But as a spokesperson for the "SOCIETY" I wanted to let all the ladies over 50, got my own money, house, business, no husband or kids, know that... It's OK.
Not many people, men and/or women over 50 (almost 60) get a chance to experience the thrill of the "Firsts" again. I'm talking about the real "Firsts" not just the "for tonight" firsts. I'm talking about the stomach flutter, heart pounding, when will I see you again, ooooo girl there he is... FIRST! The, I can still smell his cologne, is he looking at me, I can't even look at him no more, FIRST! The wow I didn't know that was still in working order, FIRST! THE I CAN'T BELIEVE I REMEMBERED HOW TO DO THAT, FIRST! (sorry I got carried away)
Anyhoo, I'm here as a reminder that there's a light on the other side. If nothing else, the thought of feeling that sensation again should help to get you to the other side. We in the "SOCIETY" are proud and strong and ready for the FIRSTS!... AGAIN!
